Do You Read Bad News About Children?
November 19, 2009
Last week I took note of the MacLaren stroller recall, but I avoided reading news about the amputations caused by the faulty products. Whenever I see a headline that involves injury or harm to a child, I am drawn to it but try to resist reading it because I know the story will stay with me.
Two years ago there was a flash flood in Denver and there was a story about a grandmother who got caught in it while taking her 2-year-old grandson for a walk. She ended up in an unfortunate location where the water rose too quickly for her to seek shelter. I remember reading that she held on to some sort of pole but could not keep her grip on her grandson, who was carried away by the water. When rescuers found her she was so distraught about her grandson she begged them to leave her and go search for him.
I was riveted by this story and checked the headlines regularly for an update, hoping that they would find him unharmed. It did not end well. This story still haunts me. I was tempted to write a letter of condolence to the family because I was so upset by the news.
Since I’ve become a parent my taste in movies and books has changed also. Although I love Mark Ruffalo, I wouldn’t even consider seeing his movie "Reservation Road," where he accidentally kills a child in a car accident. And even though "TheLovely Bones" by Alice Sebold was a muched talked about best-seller, I skipped that one too because I knew it involved the death of a child.
But some moms are the opposite of me. Lisa Belkin writes in her Motherlode Blog that she is drawn to reading about tragedies or thinking about tragic things happening to her children because she (strangely) thinks that is she does, this will somehow protect her family from these types of events.
“As a reporter, I noticed long ago that the response to nearly any newsworthy tragedy is, ‘I never thought it could happen to me,’” she writes. “Hence, absurdly linear logic would mean that thinking about it will ensure it will not happen. So when planes take off I imagine them crashing, when my children pull away from the curb I flash on the worst possible consequences, when they cough I fast-forward to tuberculosis.”
I think it’s because of our 24/7 news cycle that every outlet needs to keep their website fresh or their videos compelling that there is so much more tragic news reported than ever before. And as a result, we read about abductions or kidnappings as if they were commonplace as opposed to the extremely rare situations that they are.
So is the answer to avoid tragic news or consume it so that we become jaded or immune to it? Maybe it’s just healthier to focus on celebrity gossip? (ha!)















