What's The Proper Way To Handle Gifts From Uninvited Wedding Guests?
A lucky bride wrote into the New York Times wedding etiquette columnist this weekend:
I am not very close to my co-workers, and my fiancé and I decided not to invite them to our wedding. When I returned to the office after a short vacation, they gave us some very generous gifts from our registry. I am writing thank-you notes to every staff member but don’t know where to send them. Should I send the notes to their homes or to the office?
How lucky, right? Your coworkers were courteous enough to give gifts even though they weren't invited to your big day. You must work in a really friendly office. So what's the protocol around thanking them?
According to Emily Post, the Times resident wedding expert, you should absolutely strive to send a thank yoiu to their home address if possible -- a handwritten, thoughtful thank you. But barring that, then you should send a note throught the mail to your office mates to your office. Yes, it may seem strange to send mail to a guy whose desk is just a few paces over, but it's shows that you've gone the extra mile to properly acknowledge the gift he's given. And, Post recommends that you also individually thank each coworker in-person. After all, they were each nice enough to get you a wedding gift and they didn't even get a crack at your wedding reception open bar.
What's your take? [New York Times]
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