As we mature and grow, some friends come along for the ride and some stay behind. Friends that don’t serve your growth, may in fact be bringing you down. Friendships should be a two-way street--some giving and some taking. Surround yourself with friends that push you toward positivity, not the opposite.
We’ve all had to abandon toxic friendships. While at the time it may have seemed harsh, in the end, you’ll feel better for it.
Here’s how to tell if a friendship is toxic:
1. They don’t listen.
We live in a self absorbed society and we’re all guilty of it from time to time. But some people only want to hear themselves talk. If you have a friend that's constantly talking over you and doesn't wait to hear your side, then you may want to think twice.
2. You’re tired after dealing with them.
Do you get excited to catch up with a friend or do you feel drained after a conversation? Friends should be uplifting, not the opposite.
Friends who talk badly about everyone else around them are likely to talk bad about you as well. What's worse, you may be brought into the conflict.
4. Your interests don’t mesh.
You don’t want to be exactly like your friends because then what’s the fun? But if your interests are totally unrelated to a friend, that may explain why you end up with little to contribute to the conversation.
5. They have zero ambition.
Friends don't let friends be lazy. But seriously, a lack of ambition is contagious. Surround yourself with people that are as motivated as you are or at least as motivated as you want to be. As the saying goes, “You can’t soar like an eagle when you hang out with turkeys.”
6. They’re flaky.
Friends that don’t show when they say they’ll be there or are constantly super late, likely put their own needs ahead of your needs. Do you find yourself saying "So and so is always late, that's just them?" When the fact of the matter is that flakiness isn’t funny, it’s annoying.
Do your friends pull you up or are they constantly trying to one up you? You want to be able to be yourself and not have to pretend that everything is hunky-dory when it's not. Putting on airs with friends is a waste of energy.
8. They view the glass as half empty.
It's no fun hanging out with a friend that only sees the negative. You'll feel drained and depressed every time you leave their presence. Surround yourself with optimism and you'll find happiness much more easily.
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